Friday, 26 March 2010

End of a busy term

Hi All,

Once again I forgot to add these first so the text is at the top then the pics! Sorry. They will make more sense after reading the text after the pics. Thanks, David. Sorry about the pics, too. Seems to be a problem with my camera, will get it fixed asap.

Jack taking a mark at the footy clinic with the Melbourne Demons players.

Off to the next summer Olympics with a shot putt technique like this!

Count Jackula! Face painting at a community family fun day.

Jack with his Hawthorn hero, Lance "Buddy" Franklin, an AFL star.

The last of Jen's blooms this season.

Jack at his first school athletics carnival.

Hand balling to a Melbourne Demons player at the footy clinic.

Tackling a tackle bag. He winded himself when he landed on it a split second later! lol.

Going hell for leather!!!

Dad helped out with the bump bag too! Jack loved giving me a hip and shoulder!


Hi All,

Once again it has been a while since I have been here and life has delivered a kaleidoscope of emotions and experiences for both Jack and I. Today we finished term one at school and now have a much needed 2 week break.

Jack and I are weary and are looking forward to a ten day holiday in Tasmania (for those of you overseas, Tasmania is the most southern state of Australia and the only island state). My father came from Tasmania to Victoria back in the 1950's and most of his family is still there. We have always been fairly close to them despite the distance and so I felt it was time for Jack to get to know them. Many of my cousins have children around Jack's age so hopefully he will have a great time getting to know his extended family on my side. On top of the family, Tasmania is a beautiful state and has many wilderness areas I hope to take Jack to although we wont be moving around as much as we did on our road trip back in January. We came home from that 10 day trip very tired despite the great time and this time we need to come back rested.

The school year started well and Jack's results at school have been nothing short of sensational considering all he has been through over the last 7 months (and three and a half months in particular). However we have had a few tough weeks towards to the end of the term. I think it has been a combination of a few things. Jack, still getting used to going to school every day, an unusual amount of hot humid weather and a reality check for Jack that has seen hi realise the finality of Jen's passing away. Consequently we have had a few days (and in particular, nights) where jack has been quite upset and really needed some "tlc". It has been heart breaking and taken a lot of emotional energy from both of us. He has had a couple of extra sessions with the chaplain/counsellor at school. on top of his usual after school Thursday meeting with her. She is a wonderful lady and counsellor and Jack loves her and has grown enormously under her guidance. We did have a day off together on Thursday where he was just exhausted and fragile and it was a much needed break. My psychologist/counsellor suggested that maybe Jack have a session with her and I put it to him and he is keen to do so next term. She's a very qualified and experienced counsellor who has helped me enormously in the two sessions that I have had with her.

On the flip side of some difficult times, we have had some really fun times as well. Jack has had his school athletics carnival (his first) and even though it was a long hot day, he really enjoyed it and was justifiably proud of his efforts. He has been doing swimming and basketball every week this term and has improved heaps in both but more importantly, really enjoying them. He has had after school sport (run by the school and is free for those who get accepted) and had a footy clinic (for those not au fait with this, one of the Australian Rules Football league clubs sends their players out to run a coaching clinic for local kids) where the Melbourne Demons ran a great session for about 200 kids from local schools. Jack loved it even though he and I are members of a rival team (Hawthorn Hawks) and on that afore mentioned day off we visited our teams club and he loved looking around the team museum and club rooms.

I feel like I have just delivered another diary here but there still seems so much to tell. Jack is so excited about Sunday when we head off at about 5.30 in the morning to go and catch the ferry to Tasmania. It's about a ten hour trip and we take our own car. On the way home ten days later it's an overnight ferry trip so he's also looking forward to having our own cabin.

This trip is largely thanks to Jenni and her Mum, Sandra. Jen wasn't all that financial and her family paid for her funeral so that what was left of Jen's money could go to Jack and Jamie for them to have something to look forward to. Consequently, due to Sandra's generosity, I am able to take Jack on this trip and he is very much looking forward to it.

Will add a couple of pics of some of Jack's activities over the last few weeks.

Thanks again for all your support.

Love,

David. X

35 comments:

  1. Love Count Jackula!, haha!

    You guys are doing awesome. You would expect it not to be a smooth sail and it's great that you have a wonderful compliment of people to get you and Jack through!

    Hope you enjoy Tasmania.

    Cindy in Canada

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  2. Elizabeth from the Gold CoastSaturday, March 27, 2010 7:47:00 am

    David, you are doing a fantastic job, I can't imagine how hard it must be for you....Thank you for continuing to blog about life after Jen - she would be so very proud of you both.
    Hope you have a wonderful time in Tassie.

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  3. I'm just picturing the Tasmanian Devil on Bugs Bunny...ha.

    Sigh of relief, David. You are going to get Dad of the Year--I mean it!!! So reassuring to know Jack has such an involved and LOVING dad. You are the reason this transition is going so well for Jack--despite the reality checks which time will take care of. :( You're tender with him when he needs it the most, and that's so sweet!!!

    Hope y'all have a wonderful trip!!!

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  4. Thank you so much for posting. It is great for us to still be able to check on Jack and you as you build a new life together. Get rested!

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  5. What wonderful pictures and so nice to be able to catch up on how things are going. I so enjoyed keeping up with Jen's blog over the years; reading of her concerns of the future for Jack and Jamie, it is really heartwarming to see the love in his life. It is so great that you realize the benefit of the counseling as you go forward in your lives. Thanks again for letting Jen's blogger friends know how it is going. Keeping you in my prayers, have a wonderful vacation, Anne in Virginia

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  6. Thank you for the post, David. It really is good to be able to hear how you're both doing. I'm so glad to know that you're both getting counseling. It's a lot to process, what you've been through.

    As I'm writing this, I can't help but think of all the prayers that have covered Jack and your family. You know, there have been so many of us that prayed over Jack's future. I can't help but believe that those prayers continue to have an impact.

    Peace to you both. And prayers too :)

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  7. Enjoy the break - Tassie is lovely at this time of year.
    You are both doing really well - and the counselling will be a big part of this. Just hang in there guys.
    Jack really looks like he enjoyed the footy clinic.
    Take care
    K x

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  8. Enjoy your well deserved vacation! So glad the couseling is going well and helping through the tough times. Jack looks so happy and well adjusted and enjoying life. Jen would be so proud.

    Lisa in south Florida

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  9. David, Hope you get a chance to put for a feet up for a while and have some much needed tlc yourself. You are doing a grand job. Have a lovely time in Tasmania, send me some honey!

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  10. God what happened to my typing?!! What I tried to say was - hope you get a chance to put your feet up for a while!!

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  11. THank you for the update David. Thank you for taking such wonderful care of Jack. Jen would be very proud of you both. Lisa L.

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  12. David, you sound like such a wonderful Dad! I hope you both have a great trip..

    xo,

    annie

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  13. So happy to hear how you are doing.
    Nicky from Canada

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  14. I love the pictures!! I hope you have a great trip...what a wonderful job you're doing with Jack! :o) You two sure are staying busy!!
    Sending thoughts and xoxo your way.

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  15. Hi David,
    Thanks so much for the updates and pics, it's great hearing all about how you're doing with school, travels and the daily "stuff" - Jenni would be so proud of you and Jack and Jamie, I'm sure! It's not all merry and sunshine all the time of course and it's great that the counselors are there to help Jack thru the rough spots.
    Have a great time with your family in Tasmania and keep up the great work!
    Best,
    Cate in California

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  16. Hi David

    My time on the computer has been limited lately (and probably will be until after our daughter's wedding next month), but I've had fun catching up with you tonight.

    It really puts a smile on my face to read how well Jack is doing. I know sweet Jenni is smiling down from heaven.

    Hugs!
    Kat

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  17. Hi All,

    Sorry it's been a while but Jack and I have been on holidays in Tasmania for 10 days and now we are back at work/school. Will post in the next few days re the fantastic trip and put up some pics. Jack's met a whole plethora of "new" cousins he hadn't met and had a wonderful time.

    Take care,

    David.

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  18. Thanks for the update. It all sounds perfectly normal for all you have been through. In my experience grief comes in waves. Just when you think you have weathered the worst of it, another wave comes along and hits you. It does get better with time. Wishing you both the very best!

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  19. Wanted to check in to see how you are all doing? Life is greatly improving with Brody's service dog, we went on our first airplane trip to Vancouver from Calgary (nice short flight) with the pair. Yah - amazing - great adventure.
    Thinking of your boy and wondering how you are all doing, Jamie, Jack & Yourself!!
    God Bless
    Nicky from Canada

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  20. Hi All,

    Sorry for the delay, but life has bee very busy here. We have a long weekend here this weekend so will post some pics and journal in the next three days. Thanks for all the support and wishes.

    Take care,

    David. X

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  21. Hi David, it is great that you are continuing to keep every body informed and up to date with news of yourself and Jack.

    Can't wait to see what you got up to in Tassie.

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  22. Hi David and Jack,
    Wonderful to read the updates and all your news. I think of you and Jamie often. Still pray for Jenn's guys.
    Ruthie from California

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  23. Hi David!

    Hope everything is ok with you all.
    Love to you, Jack and Jamie :)

    Bete from Portugal

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  24. Hi All,

    Sorry for the delay. Life has been hectic with school, work, working our way through Mother's Day here in Australia and many other "speed bumps". Had a former student killed in a car accident just the other day and the funeral today. He was just 19. Life continues to be unfair at times but we all know that.

    I'm having a knee operation on thursday and so will be laid up for a few days afterwards so will make time to update on all things Jack, etc in the next few days. Many apologies.

    Jack is doing famously though, just put all your collective minds at rest. He just spent saturday night and sunday at his brother's (Jamie) Dad's place and had a great time. My second night Jack free since last August! Guess what?! I went to bed early and slept in! lol. No parties here!

    Will check in with all the news shortly (as in the next week - I promise!).

    Love to all,

    David. X

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  25. Hi Jack & David, I have been following Jenn's blog quietly for about a year now and have been checking in to see how her little man has been doing. David I think you are doing a wonderful job, Jack is blessed to have his Dad to turn to. Keeping you both and Jamie in my prayers........:-) Hugs

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  26. thanks for the quick update friend! Glad to hear you're both doing well. Good luck with the knee surgery...I wish you a speedy recovery. Keep us posted when you can :o)
    xo
    vicki

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  27. Hi All,

    Staying at parents for a few days from today after the knee surgery. Their house was hit by lightening and so their computer is away being fixed. Consequently it may be sometime next week before I get time and access to my computer to post again.

    Lots of photos to share as well as updates on what Jack, Jamie and I are up to.

    Take care,

    David. X

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  28. Best wishes on a speedy recovery from your surgery -- and prayers that Jack continues doing so well (and you too!)

    Lisa in south Florida

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  29. Hope the knee heals well - its got to be ready for the next cricket season. Good to hear that the boys are getting to spend times together - and it is good that you get a break. I think an early night and sleep in to recharge the batteries is essential - especially with your little livewire. Take care x

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  31. Hope you have a speedy recovery - and all is well.
    In thoughts & prayers.
    Nicky from Canada

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  32. Thinking of you all and sending you wishes! Lisa L.

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  33. Just dropping by to say that I continue to think about you all and pray for your peace and happiness. Hugs Lisa L.

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