Thursday, 9 October 2008

1st Update on Jenni

Hi all of Jenni's friends on here,

Please bear with me as this is my first ever blog and it's not even my blog. It's Jenni's ex, David, here. Jenni asked me to update this to inform you as to how things are going. She went into hospital yesterday afternoon, her Mum and sister (Caz) took her up to Peter Mac (the cancer specialist hospital in Melbourne). I have only received a phone call this afternoon from Jenni's Mum regarding the surgery and it was before they had seen Jenni, but it's not good news. This may not all be completely accurate in all details as it is only second hand and before they had time to digest the news. Basically, once the surgeons had opened Jenni up, they decided they wouldn't operate. After some lengthy discussion, it was decided the tumour was too big and entwined in major nerves and if they were to get enough of it to make a difference to her pain levels there was a likelihood that she would be paralysed in the legs afterwards and they weren't going o be able to get the whole tumour anyway.

Consequently, Jenni was not operated on at all in the end and they are relying on her pain specialist to use his expertise as he says he has another couple of ideas to help her with the pain. This has been devastating news for the family and I can't even begin to know how Jenni is feeling. She will be shattered, I think. She has spoken to me about the love and support she feels from all of you and is genuinely amazed and humbled by it. I know she will definitely need your ongoing prayers, love and support. Jenni and I may not always see eye to eye on things but through Jack we will always be connected and this news is heartbreaking for all. As more information comes to hand I will post more updates and she will now possibly be home sooner to update you herself. There was some talk today that in a few days she might be moved to the hospice close to her home here to recover.

Sorry to be the bearer of this news and I hope that the news improves for next time.

Take care,

David.

60 comments:

  1. Thank you, David, for posting the update. I am so sad that the news is not good; send Jen hugs from the blog world and let her know she (and all of you) are in my prayers.

    Giny

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  2. How kind and thoughtful of you, Jen, to ask you, David, to blog updates, and how generous of you, David, to do this. Though I knew you, Jen, were in the hospital, I came here anyway. Your spirit kept me coming back. I knew you'd be here, one way or another. And I send you much love as you and your expert team take the next right step. We are here.

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  3. I am so sorry about this sad news. I will be thinking of you all...this is just devastating and I am at a loss for words.

    annie

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  4. Thank you for updating all of us who were concerned thinking of the surgery.

    I'm so very sorry that the news took this turn. To gear up for something so big with promise only to have it grabbed away is heartbreaking.

    Healing thoughts for you all...

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  5. I'm so sorry it has turned out this way. Oh, Jen...
    You continue to be in my prayers.

    Thank you for the update, David.

    Cindy in Canada

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  6. David,

    Thank you so much for the update. I've been waiting to hear how Jen is doing.
    I have the same cancer as Jen does & I've been following her blog and the ostomy forum for quite a long time.

    Jen is such an inspiration and I love her dearly.

    My heart breaks for her, as I know how much she wanted to have this surgery. She will be in my prayers.

    I'm so glad you are there for Jack. Give him a big hug. Take Care.
    Dodie

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  7. I cannot express how sad this news makes me. My thoughts and prayers are with Jenni and with you David.
    Terri

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  8. Thank you, David, for taking the time to update all of us. Candles have been lit and prayers are being said. I am so, so sorry about this bad news. I know Jenni must be devastated. The entire blogosphere just got a little darker.

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  9. My heart is breaking. My prayers are with Jen, Jack, David, Jamie and the whole family. I am so sorry. I have no words.

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  10. Please tell Jen we are holding her in our thoughts. I feel I know her through her blog. Her spirit shines through.

    Thank you for posting David. Jen posts of your love, care and supprot for her and Jack.

    Susan

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  11. so sad about this hugging her from here.

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  12. This is shattering news. Sending my love and prayers for Jenni and all of you.

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  13. Thank you so much David for updating all of us, and for continuing to be there for Jenni. This is devastating, heartbreaking news. Please give her my love, and tell her the prayers for her will never stop.
    Vicki

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  14. Bless you David for being our link to Jen. I am at a loss for words. Stunned really. Please give her my love. You will all be in my prayers.

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  15. Thankyou for the update David and so very heartbreaking for you all. Prayers and blessings that they are able to help Jen with the pain!!!
    God Bless
    Nicky from Canada

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  16. no words. just a big sad pain in the center of me for all of you.

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  17. Oh my. This is not the news I'd hoped for. So sad. My heart is heavy, my words are few. David: thank you for the update.

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  18. I am sick and so very sad for all of you. I will continue to keep you all in my prayers. Tell Jen we will never stop praying. Be strong.
    Rose

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  19. I'm saddened by this news but will send hope and prayers to all of you.

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  20. At a loss for words. Thoughts and prayers to you and the family.

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  21. Thank you for the update. My heart breaks for Jeni and all of you, her family. Don't know what else to say. Will keep all of you in my prayers.

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  22. Thinking of Jenni...hurting for her and the family but praying for miracles and peace.

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  23. So sorry to hear this news :(
    Wishing peace to you all and hoping that Jen can leave the hospital as soon as possible and that the pain specialist helps.

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  24. Thank you David for letting us know - I cannot begin to imagine how you are all feeling after that news. Jen is so brave and inspirational and has touched so many people. Send her my love.
    Prayers always, Karen xx

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  25. Thanks David. I'm heartbroken and speechless. My prayers are with you all...especially you Jenn! Lisa L.

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  26. Thanks David for the update. Bless you for being a GREAT dad to Jack & for being there for Jen.

    Jen ~ I found your blog through Mother's w/ cancer. Hope you don't mind me following your story. You are an inspiration.

    Prayers & Hugs.

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  27. David~

    Thanks for the update on Jen and for loving her despite your past differences. She's going to need you to be a positive and patient father and friend during this earth-shattering time in her life.

    This WHOLE BLOG COMMUNITY is counting on you, David! YOU CAN DO IT!!! GOD will help you and work through you. Give Him the opportunity. She's already so grateful for your relationship with Jack--it's really put her at ease with the future.

    We appreciate your caring for her and the family, David. You'll be blessed for it.

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  28. I wish I could be there to hold your hand jenni. Thank you David for getting this through to us. I feel crushed. Yet knowing Jenni, she is so much strong than myself.
    She is in my heart and in my thoughts.
    May God give you strength.

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  29. Not at all what I was hoping for Jenni. She had such a tough time talking herself into having the surgery at all. I can't imagine how she is feeling right now. I hope the pain doctor will be able to work his magic for her. I'm sending good thoughts to you and yours. Thanks for the update, David.

    Best,
    Danielle

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  30. Oh dear, I am so sorry to hear this. I was hoping they would be able to get it.

    Thank you for posting and please keep doing so for us.

    Please give her lots of love from me.

    xoxox

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  31. oh no. Thank you David for updating.

    And Jen, I am so so sorry to hear this heartbreaking news.

    Thinking of you guys here.

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  32. Jenni is a dear young lady and so many are hoping for the best possible outcome for her. I will be praying for her and her family.

    -Kim

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  33. David - thanks for the update. I will get down on my knees tonight to say my prayers for her. I'm so glad you're there for them at this tough time. Please let Jenni know we're here to offer whatever support we can. Sheila from west Michigan

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  34. I am so sorry to hear this. May God give all of you the strength to bear this news, especially Jenni. I cannot imagine how she is going to take this news after so much hope. Know that someone halfway around the world is praying for her in Texas. God bless her and her family!

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  35. I can only echo all of the above. I am praying though one door has closed, another opportunity will come to help you.

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  36. Thanks David for the update although the news is devastating. I was praying someone would keep us updated. Please give Jen our love. I will continue to pray. Nothing is impossible for our God. Nothing.

    Hugs to Jen!
    Kat

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  37. Oh Jenni, I am so sorry to hear this devastating news. It is 5:00am here in the states and I just read David's post. I am crying so hard it is hard to type. What can I do? Please tell me, I will do whatever I can. I will raise money, I will send you whatever you need. If I could afford it I would be on the first plane over to Australia. I have grown to love you so much over the past few months. You have been such a comfort to me in your advise, your support and your love. Please know that I am praying for you every chance I get.
    David, thank you for the nice post. I would greatly appreciate it if you could email me Jenni's address so that I can send her a little care package. My email is sjpaddock@gmail.com
    Love and God bless,
    Shaun Paddock
    www.roomswithaview.typepad.com

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  38. Thank you so much David for updating us with this news. I am so sad to hear this is what's happened. I do hope and pray that the pain specialist can help another way, Jen deserves it. Jen you are in my thoughts!!

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  39. Thank you David for being so kind. Thinking about you and praying for you Jenni.

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  40. thank you David for posting. I have been praying for a healing outcome for Jenni and have been thinking and praying for her so many times in the last several days. Waiting and hoping to have some news, I am so so sad to hear that it is not the news that we have all hoped to hear. God Bless all of you during this, prayers to continue from around the world. Thank you, Anne in Virginia

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  41. Shit. I am very, very sorry. This is not what Jen nor any of her family and close friends wanted to hear, let alone us, the odd cyberspace crowd. Love her as much as you can. You are very much in my thoughts x

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  42. Thank you for the update, David. It must have been heartbreaking for you to write.

    Jenni, I am so very sorry to hear this news. Of course, I don't know what to say to ease your burden -- I don't think there is anything to say. Just know how very sorry I am and that you and Jack and your entire family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

    Much love to you,
    Your Fellow Mothers With Cancer Pal,
    Judy

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  43. Sending prayers.....for strength, for courage, for hope.

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  44. Thank you for the update. Sadly, wished it was better news. Will continue to pray for all.
    Alexandra

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  45. Thinking of you Jen and sending love and prayers your way ~ I wish that this was not the news that I was reading ~ my heart is with you my dear friend.
    love Tabitha XXXXXXXX

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  46. Oh, Jen... To be thinking of us at such a time makes me want to cry. I am so sad.

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  47. Sending all of you our thoughts and prayers.

    Kate

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  48. Jen thinking of you all day today. Hugs Hugs Hugs Lisa L.

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  49. I'm so, so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

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  50. It's certainly not the outcome we were all praying for. My love, thoughts, prayers and tears are with you all right now.
    Hang in there Jen, hopefully the pain med's will work for you.
    Much love,
    Wx

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  51. PS. Thanks for the update David and for being there for Jen and Jack. She really appreciates your help and it's comforting for all of us to know you're there for her now.
    Wendy (from the scrapbook shop)

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  52. Thanks for the update, David, and for being a rock for both Jen and Jack during this stressful and emotional time.

    When you said bad news, I was terrified. I'm so happy to hear that she's still with us and that, while I'm sorry she didn't get the relief she wanted, I hope that the docs got a good look at the tumor and can make better decisions in the future to help her comfortably. Even maybe removing it at a later date, now that they know more. This is what I hope for you, Jen... and peace and strength.
    Sending love and blessings from California,
    Cate

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  53. This is such terrible sad news for Jenni - who I know was hoping for relief and time from this surgery. Thank you David for keeping us posted - so hard from all of you, including Jack. I read your next post too, and am glad he is able to go up beach with friends. That kind of experience was good for my young daughters during their father's cancer hospitalizations.

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  54. I don't have the words to express how badly I feel for Jenni and the people who love her. Positive thoughts and "vibes" are headed your way from North Carolina.

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  55. Thank you for your update. You did a fine job. Although it is not an easy one.

    I am sending all of my prayers to you Jenni. I am sending off all the positive love can too. I know how much this surgery ment to you. I am so sorry.

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  56. This breaks my heart, for her.
    Thank you David for being so kind to let us all know how she is. She is so lucky to have you too.

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  57. I am lifting you all up in prayer. Jen, I cannot even begin to express my heartfelt thoughts. May God wrap his loving arms around you in the time ahead.

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  58. Jenni & family,

    I'm continuing to pray for you. You can do it.

    Susan

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  59. I am catching up. I am so sorry that they were not able to operate. Still praying hard!

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